How to Be a Man by Duff McKagan
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER, I’D LIKE TO THANK THE FOLLOWING people and components that helped me get to the point that I could actually write this book.
Of course, my wife, Susan Holmes McKagan, and our daughters, Grace and Mae, come first.
I’d like to thank Barrett Martin, Ben Anderson, and Jeff Angell of the Walking Papers.
Our crew, Paul Spencer, Rob Jones, and Jay Smith.
The Loaded guys: Mike Squires, Jeff Rouse, and Burke Thomas.
My trusty editor and collaborator of seven years, Mr. Chris Kornelis.
Tim Mohr.
Ben Schafer and all at Da Capo Press.
My book agent, Dan Mandel.
I’d also like to thank Benny and Sara Urquidez, coffee, French presses, Advil, Alka-Seltzer Plus Cold, prednisone, antibiotics, Dr. Knapp, Dr. Ballin, Everlast boxing gloves, jump ropes, the CEO of BlackBerry, gyms around the world, Tim Medvetz, Mt. Rainier, Mt. Baldy, stairs, big-ass Nalgene water bottles, energy drinks of all brands, shapes, and sizes, Axl Rose, Izzy Stradlin, Slash, Matt Sorum, Gilby Clarke, Steven Adler, McBob, Steven Tyler, Robin Zander, Billy Gibbons, Joe Elliott, Glenn Hughes, Dave Grohl, Corey Taylor, Ed Roland, Ron Mesh, Billy Duffy, Nikki Sixx, my travel agent Pat Rainer, United Airlines, Alaska Airlines, Easy (sleazy) Jet, British Airways, Lufthansa, American Airlines, TAM Airlines, Czech Airlines (even though you lost my bags), South African Air, Quantas, Air Emirates, Turkish Airways, Southwest Airlines, Delta Airlines, SAS Airlines, Jay Smith’s Van Rentals, Motel 6, Travelodge, St. Regis Hotel, Amsterdam Youth Hostel, Super 8 Motel, the Four Seasons Hotel, the Ritz Hotels, the bunkhouse in the back of that club in Cologne, Germany, Chrome Hearts, my sleeping bag, Ben Gibbard, Nick and Kate Harmer, sliced meat, sliced cheese, protein bars, Plant Fusion protein powder (no gas!), Auto Grille truck stops, Flying J truck stops, almonds, Aerosmith, Sean Kinney, Jerry Cantrell and all of Alice in Chains, Billy Ray Cyrus, Ghost, Bon Jovi, Death Cab for Cutie, Billy Idol, Randy Blythe, Scott Uchida, the Pink Slips, Whitesnake, Slayer, Biffy Clyro, Alter Bridge, that shitty orange tour bus in Europe, our American bus driver Chris, Mac computers, Lasik eye surgery, Marshawn Lynch, Richard Sherman, Kam Chancellor, Russell Wilson and all of the Seattle Seahawks!, Andrew from Kirkland, Core Power Yoga, PUSH Fitness and Chad Landers, Oxford University Sport, Leicester University Fitness Centre, Washington Athletic Club, my own damn bed, Kindle, Fender guitars and amplification, Buckley and Twirlz, “healthy-weight” dog food, Woolite travel-size clothing detergent for your sink, Old Spice deodorant, Gucci men’s perfume stuff, vitamin C, zinc, vitamin D, clean socks, dirty magazines, good books, great music, and all of the fine people that I have met on my travels.
INDEX
A&M Studios, 255
ABBA, 48
AC/DC, 48
Ace of Spaces (Motörhead), 63–64
Adam and the Ants, 48
Adler, Steven, 8, 52, 239, 240
Aerosmith, 32, 48, 238, 263, 266, 269, 270
opening for, 259
touring by, 217, 218
Aerosmith (Aerosmith), 48–49
Albini, Steve, 56
Albums, 220
buying, 222
cover art for, 224–225
favorite, 47–73
Alcohol, 16, 26, 84, 208, 255, 271
avoiding, 274, 276
Alice in Chains, 49, 64, 103, 180, 190, 192, 207
ALIVE! (KISS), 59
“All the Young Dudes” (Mott the Hoople), 25
Alter Bridge, 12
Ambrose, Stephen, 133, 143
American in Me, The (The Avengers), 49
Anderson, Ben, 39, 45, 93, 95, 178, 226
traveling with, 90–91, 92, 94
Andrew from Kirkland, 265–266, 267–268, 269, 270
Angell, Jeff, 37, 38, 39, 45, 46, 178, 226
Anselmo, Phil, 57
Appetite For Destruction (GN’R), 20, 52, 113, 266
Arcane Roots, 42
Armstrong, Billie Joe, 239
Ashba, DJ, 245
Asunción, playing in, 18, 19, 250
At Budokan (Cheap Trick), 52–53
Auf de Maur, Melissa, 2
Auschwitz (Nyiszli), 143–144
Avalon, playing at, 10, 12, 15
Avengers, The, 49
Axis: Bold as Love (Hendrix), 57
“Baba O’Riley” (The Who), 73
Bach, Sebastian, 59
Bad Company, 49
Bad Company (Bad Company), 49
Badfinger, 49
Badfinger (Badfinger), 49
Bailey, George: inspiration from, 26, 164, 276–277
Bailey, Mary, 277
Band of Brothers (Ambrose), 133
Bankruptcy, 81, 82, 85
Bannister, Roger, 118
Barcelona, visiting, 112, 115
Bauhaus, 49
BBC, 4
Beach Boys, The, 50
Beastie Boys, The, 50, 240
Beatles, The, 49, 50
Beck, Jeff, 50
Belfast, visiting, 109–111
Berlin, visiting, 112
Berry, Chuck, 50, 59
Best Of (Free), 49
Bieber, Justin, 178
Big Burn, The (Egan), 136
Black, Jack, 133
Black Box (Egan), 135
“Black Chandeliers” (Clyro), 44, 50–51
Black Flag, 51, 58, 104, 151
Black Sabbath, 51
“Blitzkrieg Bop” (The Ramones), 68
Blondie, 179, 183
Blood Meridian (McCarthy), 142
“Bloody Sunday” (Stiff Little Fingers), 111
Blow By Blow (Beck), 50
Blunderbuss (White), 72–73
Bon Jovi, 21, 22, 205
Bonham, John, 60
Booker T and the MGs, 69
Books
favorite, 133–148
promoting, 85–86, 88, 224
Bookstores, 86, 131–132
Bowie, David, 29, 31, 51–52, 147, 178
Breaking Blue (Egan), 136–137
Brussels, visiting, 161, 162
Buckley (dog), 156
Buckley, Jeff, 52
Buenos Aires, playing in, 246, 248, 249
Burnett, T-Bone, 51, 52
Burns, Ken, 2, 276
Burroughs, William S., 133
Buses, 175
traveling on, 117–118
Bush, Kate, 52
Buzzcocks, 52, 168
Cadena, Dez, 58
Cameo, 52
Campbell, Phil, 101
Cantrell, Jerry, 195, 202, 203, 211
football and, 190, 192, 193, 196, 206, 207, 208, 210
Capitol Hill Block Party, 39
Cardio, 120, 121, 126, 128, 130
Carnegie (Krass), 141
Cash, Johnny, 52
Castillo, Randy: death of, 278
Catcher in the Rye (Salinger), quote from, 17
Cave, Nick, 52
Cell phones, 78–79, 149–150, 189
Cellophane Square, 198
Century Link Field, 197
Changes, 175, 222–224, 225, 233
making, 166, 168
Charlie (boyfriend), 181, 182
“Cheap Sunglasses” (ZZ Top), 270
Cheap Trick, 52–53
Cheaters, The, 215
Children, 235
protecting, 173–174
traveling with, 175–176
Children of God (Pollock), 145
Chinese Democracy, 244
Chloe (dog), 153–156
Christmas, 153, 162, 164, 171, 180, 182
Chronic, The (Dr. Dre), 54
Churchill, Winston: quote of, 233
City council, dealing with, 107–108
Civil War, The (Burns), 2, 276
Clarke, Fast Eddie, 63
Clarke, Gilby, 12, 13, 18, 19, 240, 256
playing with, 10, 14
suit by, 15
Clash, The, 32, 51, 53, 54, 65, 110, 151
Classic Rock, 250
Clinch, Jon, 134
Closer (Joy Division), 58
Clothing, 93–94, 98, 105
gift, 231, 232
gym, 117, 120
Seattle Seahawk, 187
sexy, 187
summer, 258
teenage, 181–182
Clyro, Biffy, 41, 42, 47, 50–51, 115, 161, 162
fans of, 43
watching, 44
Cobain, Kurt, 212, 219
Coll, Steve, 134, 144
Collective Soul, 12, 24
“Communication Breakdown” (Led Zeppelin), 24
Complete Anthology, The (Chuck Berry), 50
Complete Studio Recordings, The (Led Zeppelin), 59–60
Controversy (Prince), 67
Cooper, Alice, 21, 60
Cowherd, Collin, 170
Cribs, The, 60
“Crimson and Clover,” 39
Cult, The, 53
Cunningham, Pete “Sugarfoot”: sparring with, 37, 127–129
Curtis, Edward, 135–136
Cyrus, Billy Ray, 11, 16
Dag, 53
Damaged (Black Flag), 51, 151
Damned, The, 54, 65, 110, 151
Danzig, 60
Dating, 186, 277
rules about, 185, 187–188, 189
Daughters
changes for, 175, 177
protecting, 173–174, 188–189
Dead Boys, The, 53–54
Dead Daisies, 245
Death Cab for Cutie, 21, 54
Death in Belmont, A (Junger), 140
Dedication: The Very Best of Thin Lizzy (Thin Lizzy), 71
Deep Purple, 12, 23, 24
“Deepest Shade” (Lanegan), 54
Def Leppard, 12, 24
Deftones, The, 54
Desolation Boulevard (Sweet), 71
Devil All of the Time, The (Pollock), 144
Dial M for Merthyr (Trezise), 147
Diamond Dogs (Bowie), 51–52
“Diamond Dogs” (Bowie), 52
Diana, Princess, 101
Dictators, The, 109
Dirt (Alice in Chains), 49
Dirty Deeds (AC/DC), 48
Dirty Mind (Prince), 67
Dittman, Scott, 215
DOA, 104
Dr. Dre, 54
Dr. Phil, 4
Dojos, 116, 129, 271, 274
Dolnick, Edward, 134
Dookie + American Idiot (Green Day), 56
Down on the Upside (Soundgarden), 70
Down the Great Unknown (Dolnick), 134
Downward Spiral, The (Nine Inch Nails), 65
“Dream On” (Aerosmith), 48
Dreamboat Annie (Heart), 56–57
Drinking, 2, 3, 5, 15, 26, 116
Drugs, 3, 5, 84, 122, 164, 208, 213, 215, 216, 254, 255, 271, 273
avoiding, 9, 88–89, 274, 276
traveling and, 98
using, 26, 66, 116, 117
Drums and Wires (XTC), 73
Dubai, 97, 98, 119
Dublin, drink and crawl in, 109
Dulli, Greg, 54, 56
Duran Duran, 168, 272, 275
Dusseldorf, 34, 41, 46
Dyess, Ed, 142
Dylan, Bob, 30, 54–55
Earth, Wind and Fire, 55
Ed (buddy), 206, 208, 209, 211
Egan, Jennifer, 135
Egan, Timothy, 135–136, 136–137
Electric (The Cult), 53
Elliott, Joe, 12, 25
ELO, 238
Emerson, Ralph Waldo, 132, 137
Escape from Davao (Lukacs), 142
Espen, 261, 264, 265, 266, 268
jamming with, 263
prog rock and, 262
ESPN, 37, 85, 170, 235
writing for, 150, 279
Essential Bob Dylan, The (Dylan), 54–55
Essential Etta James, The (James), 58
Essential Johnny Cash, The (Cash), 52
“Estranged” (GN’R), 243
Everest: Beyond the Limit (Discovery Channel), 205
Faces, The, 239, 240
Faith No More, 55
Family life, 25–26, 162, 267, 279
Fans, 17, 34, 43, 75, 78, 220, 236, 237, 238, 239, 247
Farrell, Etty, 193, 195
Farrell, Perry, 193, 194, 195–196
Fastbacks, 58, 228
Fear, 55
Ferrer, Frank, 245
Fever to Tell, The (Yeah Yeah Yeahs), 73
Fick, Nate, 87
50th Anniversary Tour, Rolling Stones and, 217–218
Filkins, Dexter, 137
Final Tour, 204
Finkel, Michael, 138
Finn (Clinch), 134
Finn, Huckleberry, 134
Fitzgerald, F. Scott, 137
Fixing things, 228–230
Flat Tracker (Zeke), 73
Flea, 239
Foo Fighters, 55, 208, 209
Foo Fighters (Foo Fighters), 55
Forever War, The (Filkins), 137
Fortus, Richard, 245, 248
“Freddy’s Dead” (Mayfield), 62
Free, 49
Freeze, Andy, 215
Fresh (Sly and the Family Stone), 70
Friedman, Thomas, 138
Friendships, recovering, 15, 236
Gaudi, Antonio, 112
Gehrt, Chris: letter from, 237–238
Generation X, 55
Generation X (Generation X), 55
Germs, 56, 110
Ghost in the Machine (The Police), 66
Ghost Wars: The Secret History of the CIA, Afghanistan, and Bin Laden, from the Soviet Invasion to September 10, 2001 (Coll), 134
GI (Germs), 56
Gibbard, Ben, 21
Gibbons, Billy, 270
Girlschool, 32
GN’R. See Guns n’ Roses
Gold (ABBA), 48
Gorge Amphitheater, 193, 259, 264
“Gotta Getaway” (Stiff Little Fingers), 111
GQ, Owens and, 81
Grace (Buckley), 52
Grant, Cary, 188
Great Gatsby, The (Fitzgerald), 137
Greatest Battle, The (Nagorski), 143
Greatest Hits (The Temptations), 71
Green Day, 56, 239
Greene, Sam, 155
Grimes, Lee Ann, 178
Grogan, John, 153–154
Grohl, Dave, 55, 64
Grunge music, 11, 201
Guns n’ Roses (GN’R), 11, 24, 55, 64, 72, 105, 271
formation of, 37, 250
goals for, 8
Hall of Fame and, 236, 237–238
leaving, 35, 36–37
members of, 12
pinball machine, 13–14
popularity for, 75
reunion for, 246
touring with, 113
Gutter Twins, 56
Gyms, 127, 129, 130, 203, 216, 248, 261
finding, 116, 117, 118, 120
Harajuku, peanuts in, 104–105
HARDtalk, 4
Harper, Ace, 261, 262
Harrer, Heimlich, 138–139
Harvey, Chris “Slats,” 214–216, 219
Harvey, P. J., 56
Haunted Prague tour, 108
Hawaii, vacationing in, 120, 121
HBO special, 239, 240, 241
Health problems, 116, 163–164, 191, 196–197, 208, 247
dealing with, 36, 43, 45, 122–123, 124, 160–161
Heart, 56–57
Hellacopters, 57
Helm, Levon, 72
Hemingway, Ernest, 2
Hendrix, Jimi, 57, 205
Herd, The, 170
Here Be Monsters . . . 50 Days Adrift at Sea (Finkel), 138
Hetherington, Tim, 140
“Highway Star” (Deep Purple), 23
Hillenbrand, Laura, 139
Hitler, Adolf, 141, 143
Hitlerland (Nagorski), 143
Hochschild, Adam, 139
Hodgins, Michae
Home life, 164, 227–228, 231, 276
Hotels, 78
cheap, 45–46, 74, 80
expensive, 83
trashing, 75–76
House of Blues, 239
Housework, 159, 258–259, 267, 268
Hughes, Glenn, 12, 29
I Love Rock and Roll (Joan Jett and the Blackhearts), 58
“I Love Rock and Roll” (Joan Jett and the Blackhearts), 58
Ice Cream Castle (The Time), 71
Ice T, 151
Idiot, The (Iggy Pop), 57
Idol, Billy, 12, 24, 56, 57
“If You Want Me to Stay” (Sly and the Family Stone), 70
Iggy and the Stooges, 57, 109, 147–148, 218
Iggy Pop: Open Up and Bleed (Trynka), 147–148
I’m Stranded (The Saints), 69
Imitations (Lanegan), 54
“Immigration Song” (Led Zeppelin), 24
Inflammable Material (Stiff Little Fingers), 71, 110
Into Thin Air (Krakauer), 141
Iron Lady, The (movie), 123
Ishiguro, Kazuo, 139–140
Island Records, U2 and, 225–226
It’s a Wonderful Life (movie), 26, 276–277
It’s Only Rock and Roll, The (Rolling Stones), 69
“It’s So Easy” (GN’R), 22, 265
It’s So Easy (and other lies) (McKagan), 4, 85–86, 88, 99
Iverson, Allen, 81
“Jackson” (Johnny Cash), 52
Jacksonville, gig in, 107, 108
Jam, The, 54, 110
James, Etta, 58
Jane’s Addiction, 58, 193, 195
Jet lag, dealing with, 1, 17–18, 119, 120
Jett, Joan, 58
JFK (Stone), 2
Jim Rome Show, The, 5
Jimmy Kimmel Live, 105, 204
Joan Jett and the Blackhearts, 58
Jockey Club, 23–24, 252, 255
John, Elton, 58, 238
Johnny Thunders and the Heartbreakers, 71
Jones, Catherine Zeta, 101
Jones, John Paul, 60
Jones, Rob, 43, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104
Jones, Steve, 272, 273, 275, 277
Jones, Tom, 101, 102
Joshua Tree (U2), 72, 226
Joy Division, 58
J.T. (nephew), 249
Junger, Sebastian, 140
Jungle, The (Sinclair), 146
Kasher, Steven, 140–141
Kennedy, Myles, 12, 240
Kickboxing, 127, 129–130
Killing Joke, 58
Killing Joke (Killing Joke), 58
Kilmister, Lemmy, 63, 64, 218
King Coal (Sinclair), 146
King Leopold’s Ghost (Hochschild), 139
Kingdome, 60
Led Zeppelin at, 197, 198, 199, 200, 201
Kings of Chaos, 24, 26, 74, 99, 252, 256, 270
moving from, 36
playing with, 1, 10, 17
as supergroup, 12
Kings of the Wild Frontier (Adam and the Ants), 48
Kinney, Keenan, 180
Kinney, Sean, 180
Kirkus Reviews, 87